My Spouse Just Asked For A Divorce — What Should I Do Now?
Marriage is a beautiful thing, but let’s face it: it doesn’t always work out. There are many ways a rocky marriage can be patched up or salvaged, but sometimes the best course of action is simply getting a divorce.
If your spouse has asked for a divorce and you’re unsure what your next step should be, don’t fret! In this blog, we’ll discuss some simple tips for dealing with your divorce and moving forward!
Get In Touch With An Experienced Attorney
One of the first things you’re going to want to do when your spouse asks for a divorce is to get in touch with an experienced divorce attorney. While our blog can give you general tips for dealing with divorce, an actual attorney can give you advice on your specific situation.
As with most things, a variety of factors drive the outcome of the divorce, so an experienced attorney can walk you through what to consider at each stage of the process.
Look For Emotional Support
Now, this isn’t exactly advice for navigating the legal side of divorce, but more so for navigating the emotional and mental aspects of divorce. The truth is that divorce can be an emotionally taxing and dizzying experience, especially if one side did not see the proposition of divorce coming. This is perfectly normal and expected, but sometimes our strong emotions can get in the way of seeing situations clearly.
Too often, people will turn to destructive or unproductive behaviors as a way to mask or push away bad feelings. This can lead to poor judgment, which may only make handling the legal side of divorce more difficult for you and the other parties involved.
To avoid letting your emotions spiral out of control, look for emotional grounding and clear, level-headed perspectives. This could be from supportive friends and family, or from mental health professionals like licensed therapists.
To be clear, we’re not saying to be stone-cold in your response, unless that’s how you cope. You can and should feel your feelings, but also keep your mind clear enough to handle the divorce well. Having a support system that you can talk to may make maintaining that delicate balance easier.
Chart Out Your Hopes For The Outcome
When going into a divorce, one of the most important things you should do is determine what you are looking for. If there are sizable assets, how would you want those divided? If there are children involved, how would you like custody to be handled? These questions and others should have clear answers as you navigate the divorce process.
Of course, this does not mean for you to expect all of your wishes for the trial to be granted. It does, however, mean that you should have an ideal outcome for the divorce that can guide your decisions throughout the process. Like with most things, knowing the ideal outcome upfront can make it much easier to create a great plan for achieving those goals.
Try To Work With Your Spouse Amicably
For many divorces, one or both spouses will try to fully cut ties and work as little as possible with one another. Especially after a tumultuous divorce, it can feel better mentally and emotionally to keep communication to the absolute minimum. However, this can cause the divorce process to become full of friction and potentially more difficult for everyone involved.
Of course, if the divorce was the result of abusive or dangerous behavior in any form, then it may be best to keep communication to a minimum. However, if the divorce was the result of things simply not working out, then maintaining communication with your former spouse can make the divorce process smoother. This is not at all necessary but could make handling the logistics of divorce easier.
Navigate Your Divorce With Joseph & Hartshorn!
As we’ve noted earlier, divorce can be a very difficult process, but good legal representation can make all the difference. At Joseph & Hartshorn, we’ve helped countless clients work through all aspects of their divorce to reach an agreeable outcome.
To learn more about the divorce process or to schedule your consultation, get in touch with our firm via phone, email, or by visiting us in person!